Do you struggle with self love? Are you always neglecting yourself in order to please other people? If so, then know you are not alone. Self love is something many people have to learn. In fact, it is something you must practice. In this blog I do my best to provide you with self love affirmations that you can use to help you feel empowered. Read below for the self love affirmations!
Affirmations according to the Webster dictionary means: “To Validate, Confirm or Agree.”
Based on the above its easy to conclude that affirmations are simply agreements that you make with yourself. You can find this concept in religion. The Bible states: “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” What’s interesting is that this is not only seen in spirituality, but Psychology refers to this same theory by a term called “Self Fulfilling Prophecy.” Both of these concepts assert that you have the absolute power to create your reality through affirming.
Keep reading to see self love affirmations you can use today!
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Reframe Your Limiting Beliefs Around Self Love
Now we can make affirmations around almost anything in our life. In fact, a book named The Fifth Agreement asserts we have been making agreements since we were born! ( A highly recommended read if you want to identify harmful agreements you have made about yourself in the past )
But Self Love Affirmations are a particularly powerful agreement because it involves you taking complete control and accountability for your life. There are no excuses, you have to be honest with yourself. And if you haven’t noticed people lie to themselves everyday.
Limiting beliefs around Self love limit your ability to acknowledge your need for self love and make you feel you do not need to love yourself first above everything and everyone else. I discovered a beautiful concept and I want to share it with you. Have you ever performed a love language quiz for yourself and your partner? There are five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch and Receiving Gifts.
What if the love language you discover is really what you should be giving yourself? For example:
Words of affirmation: Begin keeping a journal with powerful affirmations about yourself in it.
Acts of Service: Do something special for yourself, or finally make time to organize the pantry, your closet, your room.
Quality time: Read a good book, quietly sip tea by the nook in the living room , meditate, give yourself a facial.
Physical touch: Take a warm bath, light candles to feel the warmth, wear soft cozy clothes to lounge around the house
Receiving gifts: Set aside money to buy something sentimental, funny, cool or valuable for yourself.
Here you see that you can give yourself what you need without anyone else. Now of course companionship is healthy and important but in the event that you are putting the responsibly of meeting your love need solely on a companion I want you to see that you don’t have to.
In fact you may inherently believe that putting yourself first may be a selfish and egotistical thing to do. This is not the case. To love yourself means to honor your needs above another’s in order to have an overflow from which you can give.
Challenging the thought that caring for your self in objectively wrong is simply a trauma response. This thinking may have been enforced by your past, your childhood a bad relationship and so on. And At some point the onus is on you to identify to cracks and work to seal them up.
In fact, giving your self the love you need allows for you to identify those who are loving you incorrectly sooner. You will quickly eliminate romantic relationship or friendships that do not honor your love language because you know what it feels like to be loved properly.
Take a look at the way Wikipedia describes affirmations:
“..in New Thought and New Age terminology refer primarily to the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment—fostering a belief that “a positive mental attitude supported by affirmations will achieve success in anything.”[1] More specifically, an affirmation is a carefully formatted statement that should be repeated to one’s self and written down frequently. For affirmations to be effective, it is said that they need to be present tense, positive, personal and specific.[2]”
In my personal life, self love affirmations have been an effective tool of change because just as mentioned above they were present tense, positive and specific. Meaning I believed what I was saying as though what I was saying was already my reality.
Be delusional.
Be absolutely unreasonable around anything that revolves around your desires.
Affirmations have helped me wade through self destructive, negative thoughts. But how do we use them? Let me explain more.
How To Use Self Love Affirmations
Affirmations can be spoken or written down. You can use a journal to write and rewrite your favorite affirmation quotes every day. You can also choose to repeat your affirmations in the mirror to help visualize yourself as the person you want to be. You can say them when it is most convenient. This may be in the shower or during breakfast. Whenever is most comfortable to you.
Powerful Self Love Affirmations
What I love about affirmations is that you can craft them to your specific needs. As this Thrive Market Article puts it, “Think of your weaknesses, then craft affirmations to counter that, repeat them aloud, and visualize them happening in front of you.” Powerful Self Love Affirmations are the ones that are tailor made to you. You use your greatest weakness and coin a phrase that is the exact opposite then begin affirming it over yourself daily.
Daily Self Love Affirmations
Speaking of daily Self Love Affirmations, have you every wondered why people do this daily? Let me ask you this. How long do you think you have thought of yourself as ugly? or stupid orunworthy of love? Probably since you could remember. Maybe years.
The daily suggestion is so that you can overwrite what maybe years of destructive thinking. Its truly arbitrary but really its a measurement that means to imply that you should say these affirmations until you truly, truly believe them and even then you say it as often as possible for you.
Positive Self Love Affirmations list
- I unapologetically choose myself today!
- I give myself permission to rest when needed and I relinquish the need to fix everyone else’s problems!
- I will honor my needs above others because I can not give from an empty cup!
- I will not overextend myself in an effort to make others happy!
- Good things come into my life in higher and higher quantities over and over again!
- I attract the highest good in my life because I am a magnet for great things!
- I deserve all the good things life has to offer!
- I am letting go of old painful cycles and making way for new things to emerge!
- Every cell in my body vibrates with health and wellness!
- Everyday I am becoming wiser, stronger and healthier
- Nothing feels better than taking care of my needs without guilt or shame!
- Everything is always working out for my good!
- I am worthy of creating my dream life!
- My dreams are more compelling than my fears! I have faith that I will manifest my dreams in divine timing.
- I will achieve all of my goals because I am worthy of success!
- I have the courage to walk my own unique path and to follow all of my dreams and desires.
- Money comes to me easily and effortlessly!
- I accept myself completely and I stand confident in my own skin!
- Everyday I am doing my best and my best is enough
- I tend to my body with unconditional compassion and care.
- I am supported and loved at all times during this healing process.
- I love the parts of me that need my love the most right now.
- I radiate confidence, beauty, and grace. I love, honor, and cherish all parts of who I am.
- I release all negative thoughts, actions and behaviors that seek to destroy my divine destiny, I call in all positive energy to help me align with my higher self.
- I choose to operate in love and grace and I will extend love and grace to myself and forgive myself for past mistakes.
- I choose thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere within and around me.
- I have whatever it takes to ascertain my dream life.
30 day self love Affirmations
I think its worth reiterating that self love does not make you a self centered person. In fact the more you pour into yourself, the more you are cared for by you, the more you are able to help others. Abandoning your self care can actually leave you feeling depleted and resentful. So prioritize you and honor your needs.
They say if you repeat something for 30 days it may become a habit. How about trying these self love affirmations for the next month to help you get in the habit of fostering loving thoughts about yourself?
Let me know how it goes!
Hey friends, I really hope you enjoyed this article on self love! Let me know which affirmation is your favorite!
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About the Author
De’Shante’ Grant- Parris
De’Shante’ is a Lifestyle and Wellness blogger with a Bachelors degree in Psychology. De’Shante’s love for living a life in balance was heightened through her experiences watching people in her life lose themselves to the rat race of life. De ‘Shante believes unbearable stress and neglect can lead to many preventable illnesses. She is an advocate for a life of wellness and self-care as top priority in our human experience.
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